Have you ever heard someone talk about “they” — that mysterious group supposedly pulling all the strings? “They” control the government, the banks, the media. People often name the Illuminati, reptilians, devil worshippers, powerful banking families like the Rothschilds or Rockefellers, or some secret cabal running everything from the shadows. The theories go on forever. But what if the truth is much simpler — and much closer to home?
The real “they” isn’t some hidden elite in a dark room. It’s us. All of us. When we drift away from our natural state of love and get stuck in fear, we create the very control and suffering we blame on others.
Let me explain it step by step, with everyday examples — and yes, even touching on those famous families — so it all clicks.
Our True Essence Is Love
At our core, every human being is capable of pure, unconditional love. Think of a little kid sharing their favorite toy without thinking twice, or the warmth you feel when you help a stranger and expect nothing back. That’s our default setting — open, connected, generous.
Fear Is the Opposite
But life happens. We experience loss, rejection, scarcity. We start fearing more loss — losing money, health, relationships, safety, even our lives. Fear makes us contract. We pull back, protect ourselves, and try to control everything around us to feel safe.
How Fear Turns Us Into Controllers
Here’s where it gets real:
- Personal example: Imagine someone who grew up poor and now has a good job. Out of fear of going broke again, they hoard money, work obsessively, and become stingy — even with people they love. They start controlling family spending, snapping at anyone who “wastes” money. To others, they look cold or selfish. But inside, it’s just fear running the show.
- Relationship example: Picture a partner who’s terrified of being abandoned. Out of fear, they get jealous, check phones, demand constant reassurance. Their need to control the relationship pushes the other person away — creating the exact loss they feared. From the outside, they seem possessive or toxic. But it’s fear wearing a mask.
- Bigger scale example: Think about a boss who’s afraid the company will fail. They micromanage employees, hoard information, and crush new ideas that feel risky. The workplace turns into a prison of rules and stress. Employees complain about “the management” being evil or heartless. But often, it’s just fear at the top trickling down.
Now take this to the largest scale: families like the Rothschilds or Rockefellers, who built enormous wealth and influence in banking and industry over generations. Conspiracy theories paint them as the ultimate “they” — secretly orchestrating wars, economies, and governments for total control. Whether or not every claim is true, their actions (and the systems they helped shape) often stem from the same root: fear of loss. Fear of financial collapse, loss of family legacy, loss of power in a chaotic world. To protect what they have, decisions get made that prioritize security and control over openness and sharing. From the outside, it can look ruthless or “evil.” But strip away the myths, and you often find deeply human fears driving it — just amplified by immense resources.
When enough people (at any level) operate from fear, whole systems start reflecting it: governments that control citizens “for safety,” corporations that squeeze workers for profit, media that amplifies threats to keep us afraid and consuming. We point fingers at “them” — the Rothschilds, Rockefellers, or whoever — but “they” are just people like us, lost in the same fear.
The Extreme Version: Looking “Evil” or “Demon-Possessed”
In really deep fear, people can seem almost inhuman. History is full of leaders who committed atrocities — not because they were born monsters, but because terror (of losing power, of enemies, of death) twisted them. From the outside, their actions look pure evil. But many spiritual teachers say it’s fear so intense it disconnects them from love completely.
One speaker who explains this beautifully is Darius J. Wright. In a talk from the 2025 Cosmic Consciousness Conference, he says what we call “demonic” entities or controlling forces are actually souls who got trapped in fear after death or trauma. They try to feed on others’ fear to feel alive. But they only have power if we give it to them by staying afraid. The way out? Choose love. Love dissolves the illusion.
(You can watch the full talk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ACRmFJdktY)
The Good News: We Can Change It
This isn’t about blaming ourselves, excusing harmful actions, or feeling hopeless. It’s the opposite — it’s empowering.
Even the most powerful people are still human, still capable of choosing love over fear. And every time you choose love over fear — forgiving instead of resenting, sharing instead of hoarding, trusting instead of controlling — you weaken the “prison” a little. You stop feeding the cycle.
Start small:
- Notice when fear shows up (tight chest, racing thoughts).
- Ask: “What am I afraid of losing?”
- Then choose the loving action anyway.
When enough of us do this, the whole system shifts. No need to fight shadowy cabals or demonize families like the Rothschilds and Rockefellers. Just become the love we want to see.
The real “they” is us — but so is the solution.
What do you think? Have you seen fear turn someone controlling in your own life — or noticed it in bigger power structures? Drop a comment — let’s talk about it. 💬
